Many parents worry about their ability to raise their children to be happy and successful in life. Thankfully, there are science-based methods you can try to help ensure that your child grows up confident and well-adjusted.
Here are a few of our favorite science-based tips on how to raise a happy, confident child:
Be a Happy Person Yourself
The simple truth is that if you aren’t happy and confident yourself, your children are likely to be the same way. Emotion problems in children have been linked to emotional problems in adults, and not only that, unhappy parents aren’t always the most effective parents.
If you’re a happy parent, you’re more likely to have happy children, end of story. When children were questioned in a study about the one thing they’d wish for in regard to their parents, they answered that they wished their parents were less stressed and tired.
Prioritize Your Marriage
You might think you should prioritize your children over your marriage in order to have happy, confident children. The opposite is true. One of the greatest gifts you can give your children is to allow them to see what a healthy, fulfilling marriage looks like.
It is helpful for children to see their parents compliment each other, hold hands often, hug one another, greet each other joyfully, say “I love you,” and spend at least 20 minutes in conversation every day.
Give Your Undivided Attention
When your child is speaking to you, make sure they understand that you value their words, and make them feel important. Give them your full, undivided attention when they speak with you. This can help them feel like you’re really listening and that you care about what they have to say.
This can help your replies be more thoughtful and it can go a long way in helping your child learn how to communicate properly with others.
Celebrate Together as a Family
When there are things worth celebrating in your family, take the time to actually celebrate them. No matter how big or small. This can include things like holidays, the first day of school, attending festivals, or celebrating a job promotion.
The celebrations don’t have to be all that big. You can do something as simple as going to the park together or throwing a surprise party. The point is to help make the members of your family feel important. Happy families can lead the way to happy children.
Keep in mind that these celebrations should be invites, and not something forced as your children become older.
Teach Your Child How to Manage Emotions
One big key to long-term success, health, and happiness is the ability to regulate your emotions. Not only that, but it can also help your children learn how to better focus. There are many ways you can help teach your child how to manage their emotions properly.
Some of those ways include acknowledging your child’s progress, emphasizing with your children, having the ability to demonstrate emotional self-management yourself, and taking the time to explain to your children that while all feelings are acceptable, not all behaviors are okay.